Some messages were flirty or stated we had been rocky.
I know he would never cheat but I can't help but worry he'll always be tempted to turn to others for a confidence boost when things get complicated.
I love him and have always trusted him, but I don't know if his actions have made me insecure and we have an actual issue, or if it's the anxiety and our problems are truly in the past. Try as we might to wipe the slate clean, there are always smudges.
Tracking every Facebook like is not going to make you or anyone else happy.
It’s somewhat worrisome that he won’t even make plans with you when his ex is in town, but you say you trust him and know he wouldn’t cheat.
I also notice that he likes all of her Facebook profile pictures when she updates them and adds a new picture.
I have not said anything to him about it because I do trust him, and I know he would never cheat on me, but I can't help but feel like he once had strong feelings for her in high school or that he may even have some feelings for her still.
My boyfriend and I've been together for nine months, and we've not had sex. I've asked him about it and he says he generally waits awhile before having sex. I feel confident about our relationship, I know he truly loves and wants to be with me but I feel like nine months is a little long to wait, like he doesn't want me sexually. I always say that “normal” and “abnormal” aren’t terribly useful labels. In other words, your boyfriend isn’t a freak who’s weird or strange or deceptive just because he’s waiting. Maybe he’s dealing with some difficult sexual history. My boyfriend and I have been dating three years but the last four months have been rough.
No two people are ever in a relationship that’s “normal” — or average — in every way. Your boyfriend could have valid reasons for taking it slow. Maybe he’s insecure or young or just very cautious. Since, I've been diagnosed with anxiety and believe this to be the root of most of our problems.
Do I bring up my concerns and talk to him, or should I just try to ignore it and not overthink it? I get a whole lot of questions from readers who basically want to know: Do I have to talk about this? We all just want things to turn out for the best with the least effort and anxiety possible.
This thing is driving me crazy, but if I ignore it, won’t it just go away? We all want things to be easy, for relationships to come naturally, for our partners to just read our minds.
Let’s be clear: Nobody’s problems are ever “truly” in the past — if, by “truly,” you mean completely. Whether it’s this relationship issue or your own anxiety, these aren’t issues that can simply be dealt with and dismissed, trashed and put behind you. “It’s not even past.” It’s natural for issues to linger.