It’s too messy.) DDs (divorced dads) in that six-month-to-three-year window are ideal for independent people like myself.Between prepping lunches, putting together goody bags for their child’s birthday at school (“Why does underwear, DDs will not be texting all the time.
In my experience, never-married guys without kids do things like get a four-leaf clover tattoo on their leg, decide they don’t like it, and then follow it up with the rest of the Lucky Charms to make it “better.” Or send jerk-off videos that look like they were shot in a Mc Donald’s bathroom, or ghost but still watch your Instagram stories.
I didn’t care that he was divorced and had kids, I told him. Things didn’t end up working out with this particular man, but the date sparked a realization: By and large, divorced dads just have their shit together so much more than their childless, never-married peers.
When there is a mutual understanding that we are not each other’s first priority, I can focus my energy on my friends, career, family, hobbies, and, most importantly, myself — all things that usually fall by the wayside when I start dating someone new. They’re protective of their free time because they have so little of it.
They know how to budget their time and don’t flake (mostly because they’ve already had to hire and pay a babysitter in order to show up to the date).
I had never thought I would, one day, find myself trying out the “Single Dads” portion on the dating menu…
Apparently, however, if you are single, in your thirties and looking for an older man (aka late thirties or forties), the chances of bumping into a divorced guy with kids are high!They’re there because they’ve jumped through some hoops and to be there, which is flattering.If you’ve made it past a first date and are on to the next, you can trust that they actually like you; otherwise, they wouldn’t have made the necessary arrangements in order to show up.And Yes, it can end up in a great romance (after all, everyone deserves a second chance, when it comes to love), but it requires a whole other level of maturity, clarity and the ability to assess whether this man is actually worth the hassle…Through many rounds of martinis with girlfriends, discussing stories about single dads & dating, this is what I have come to conclude: Single dads, because of their divorce ordeal (which is usually bitter), behave like “Martyrs”, which appeals to women’s “Savior” gene.A caveat: I’ve found myself having to give remedial sex-ed classes to any man who’s been in a monogamous relationship for an extended period of time.