If a social situation goes awry, they automatically blame themselves.
The threat of negative evaluation from others–such as being negatively perceived by your date–is the root of social anxiety, and is exacerbated in a dating setting.
Most of the time, anxious daters highly overestimate how harshly their partner is judging them.
They assume the other person thinks the worst of them and is focusing on their flaws and mistakes.
This is usually because people who are socially anxious tend to have lower self-esteem and make automatic negative assumptions about themselves.
Dating is typically a situation where people feel scrutinized, have to meet new people, and may fear they’ll do something embarrassing.
In this way, dating only adds fuel to the anxiety fire.
Because they judge themselves harshly, they assume others do, too.
And it makes them not want to share, be open or be vulnerable.
And anxiety left untreated often leads to developing comorbid disorders, such as depression.