But after embracing and applying the first and greatest commandment, I have found that the . If you’re not a Christian — if you haven’t dealt with God before trying to date — you don’t have a chance of having a truly healthy Christian relationship with someone else.
But even if you are a Christian, there are still a thousand more ways to subtly or blatantly reject God’s wisdom and fall into sin.
He captures our into his goal and plan for our life: to make disciples who love him with all their heart, soul, mind, and strength. Will we trust him, even when we want something else for ourselves?
"The Amish and Mennonite contacts I have established in Lancaster County help me to keep the books authentic.
They love, hurt, have daily challenges and struggles, and strive to be the best they can be.
We judge the success of our time with the Lord by what we get out of it, by what we remember, by what we’ve learned.
We consider our devotions a success when we learn some new fact about God or about the Bible.
What if it’s less about Bible study and more about building relational intimacy?
What would change about our devotions if instead of trying to learn about God, we focused instead on spending time with God, time spent hearing from him through his Word and speaking to him through prayer?
A sense of humor can help forge a connection between us, even when our arms are crossed. And it buffers the inherent stress of relationships, allowing us to relax around each other toward that “let your hair down,” intimate environment of authenticity.
Used correctly—rather than as veiled criticism, cutting sarcasm, or to belittle—it tears down walls instead of each other.
And no one will truly love you if they do not love God more than they love you.
The first step in dating should always be the step of faith we take toward our Lord, Savior, and greatest Treasure, King Jesus.
You just need to be willing to spend the time, to listen and to speak.