” you’ll get a lot more insight into who they are, Bennett says.
“I like this one because not only could some people say, ‘Well, I actually *have* a podcast’ (as I do), which would score a lot of first-date ‘points,’ but it also can help you quickly discover what a person’s passions are without asking that question outright.”If you’ve never played Two Truths and a Lie, don’t worry — it’s easy; plus, you and your date will get to know a lot about each other.
However, you can also ask them not to choose an answer like “errands.” “Overall, it’s a fun way to peek into your date’s day-to-day lifestyle,” Edwards says.
“Be interested in them and ask questions about the light-hearted stuff, such as how they got into the city or where they found parking,” Mathur tells Bustle.
“Asking questions that require black and white answers are a great way to start deeper conversations.” And if it's an online date, make sure you take another look at their profile.
“The cats-or-dogs question will get those out of the way,” Bennett says.
Having similar taste in music can help you and a date bond, and if you ask them about the last concert they went to — or even the best concert they ever went to — it can help you learn more about them.
With all the articles that fill our social media feeds and phones, asking your date what they’ve read lately — and what moved them — is a great icebreaker. “So stand out and compliment their style, their swagger, their shoes, earrings, jacket, or whatever really gave you a positive first impression." Plus, then it will lead to other stories and questions, such as telling you about the flea market where they got the ring or how they went to every cool T-shirt shop in L. to track down this one vintage shirt — have you been to any of those shops?
“Find out what interests and inspires your date by asking about their last great read, whether it’s an article or a book,” Antonia Hall, psychologist, relationship expert, and author of What is your date wearing that stands out? Everyone’s probably traveled at some point, whether it was road trips during their childhood or jetting to Europe after high school.
If you met online, an easy go-to icebreaker is asking your date about something specific from their dating profile.
“Being sincerely interested about something that caught your eye on their dating profile can show your date that you are intrigued and want to know more,” J. Kirkwood, certified relationship coach and author of , tells Bustle.
“This is so much fun because the answers are endless and likely silly, which allows vulnerability to come into play,” Edwards says.