BDSM releases endorphins, which can lead to both dominants and submissives experiencing a “drop.” Aftercare can help prevent that.
N is for Needle Play Also a form of edgeplay (blood! Hopefully those needles are sterile and surgical grade. Most professional dommes have clients who request or are into needle play. O is for Orgasm Denial You know how sexual anticipation is hot AF?
It can involve sticking a needle (temporarily) through an erogenous zone such as the nipple or... Orgasm denial is next-level sexual anticipation for those who love a throbbing clit or a boner that’s been hard forever just dying to get off—which is to say, almost everyone. It’s just a glam name for face-sitting, often used in D/S play.
While kinky people can be on a spectrum (see: “Switch”), typically you’re either dominant or submissive.
If you take away one fact from this guide, it should be that even though the dominant partner in D/S relationship may be slapping, name-calling, and spitting on the submissive, BDSM and D/S relationships are all about erotic power exchange, not one person having power over another.
The vocabulary of BDSM can be intimidating to newcomers (newcummers, heh heh).
What is your domme talking about when she tells you to to stop topping from the bottom and take off your Zentai suit for some CBT? So, let’s start with the basics: “BDSM” stands for bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, and sadism and masochism, the core pillars of kinky fun.
B is for Bondage Bondage is the act of tying one another up.
In most cases the dominant partner is restraining the submissive using ropes, handcuffs, Velcro, specialty hooks, clasps, or simply a belt if you’re on a budget.
Leather shorts, leather paddles, and leather corsets are popular, although increasingly kinky retailers provide vegan options for their animal-loving geeks.
M is for Masochist A masochist is someone who gets off on receiving sexual pain.
If there’s actually a chance of real physical harm, it’s likely edgeplay.